Hmm two things... either I need to change my expectations and be more patient with Seattle girls when it comes to dating and not over doing it / thinking too much about it and just enjoy any dates if it happens, else these pacific Northwest girl really really need to change the whole damned Seattle Freeze in them. Here's what / why I'm torn, some people say just enjoy the date and be yourself, that's definitely credible and being unpretentious and people will get to know you for who you are, but at the same time I'm reading all these dating tips saying that you need to ask subtle questions which will then slowly reveal the true nature of the other person.
Call me unsophisticated and an engineer, I don't do gray most of the time unfortunately. I deal in 1's and 0's, black or white mostly. I definitely do understand there is a proper time for proper questions when it comes to dating, so as not to scare a potential mate away but by God, I'm not a Psychology major... and I don't really do what the interviewers do, for example: "Tell me more about yourself" is a fucking trick question to see if you're going to ramble about your hobbies and where your buttock pimple is, but a question about your professional side. Note to self: assassinate whomever who came up with this "Tell me more about yourself" question.
Reason for such a big statement / soap box action is due to another possible unenthusiastic potential date. I feel as if I'm doing a lot to show that I'm not your typical PNW guy with a passive aggressive demeanor (and I'm not for crying out loud, I'm from Malaysia and an ISTJ, though more ESTJ these days). I try hard to keep communications prompt and in detail and yet all I get is a lackluster / mundane / demure / nonchalant reply. W T F is all I can say. Perhaps I'm overdoing it, perhaps I'm indeed a hyper and overwhelming type personality at times and trust me I always try to see things from both points of views, so I don't think I'm doing it too wrongly per se. I think I'm imposing / expecting the other party to reciprocate with at least some enthusiasm, which some people have the same train of thought, else it's the whole social ineptness typical of the pacific north west.
Anyways, I'm gonna play it cool, lesson learnt deal in gray Roy... deal in gray and 0.5. You are who you are and you cannot expect others to do / behave like you else the world would be a boringly good predictable world. I guess I'm just tired of courtship and the whole cat and mouse game and perhaps I'm thinking like a PNW guy that I'm a great catch. I don't doubt myself, but I definitely need to let nature take it's course.
Need to go borrow a dating for dummies book and read it, then perhaps I'll be a better dater and have more success. We'll see. For now I'm definitely gonna take my time and "treat others and they would treat you". If you're nonchalant, 2 can play at the game.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
So much to tell so little time
Wow where to start... ok biking first. So my bicycling partner and I have achieve twice around Lake Washington. Ride 1 was 58 miles long, Sept 4th starting from Warren G. Magnuson Park. you won't believe the sights that you'll see circling around lake Washington.
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_04_Lake_Washington_Bicycling/
Next one was Sept 25th, and blah this time I crashed, with my new bike, what a bummer, had to bring it into REI to true out the back wheel but other than that it's golden. Ohh and we saw a Lamborghini in Bellevue... typical I guess since the East Side is higher class and more effluent:
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_25_lake_Washington_bicycling_part_deux/
Just a heads up I'm grouping them by topics, not so much chronological order. On my to do list: hiking, and so I did it on sept 19th:
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_19_Bridal_Veil_Hike/
But have not done camping. It's now already Winter and I have yet to get a snow shoe / skiing / snowboarding session in. Sigh. No chain tires, don't know how to put them on... darn it. I'll prob car pool with others who are more experienced. I have driven in snow in Missouri which did not require snow chains / traction tires...
Sept 10th was the Salsa lesson, learnt the truth that I definitely do have 2 left feet, else maybe I wasn't trying hard enough. I'll still give dancing a try though it's not my forte.
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_10_Salsa_Lesson/
By this time already I was dating Lucy... a whole different saga / twilight zone experience / stuff that you'd think would only happen on soap operas... not the good things but the bad things especially after the breakup.
So Lucy is originally from China, she came with her parents in 1994 so completed her high school and college in Seattle Wa and you'd think someone who has been in the US this long would have acclimated / adapted to life here. We met from a few meetup.com events and story goes that she's looking for 6 feet tall, good in bed, earns a ton of money and the list goes on.
So she "interviewed" me and decided to give me a try. I, at that time was unfortunately getting jaded and tired of the whole dating scene in Seattle and I really should have followed my gut to not give up, persevere and not lower my expectation / compromise, and thought ok I'll give her a try and see how things would go. I already knew there will be quite a lost in translation because I know I am not as traditional as Lucy was, in short she's definitely more Chinese than I'll ever be. She's always talking about Astrology. It's not my forte, it's not something I believe in and not something which I am against, just neutral about it. Come to think about it, it's kinda funny, she's a Christian and as far as I recall, I think they do not condone astrology.
So anyways we dated and we had 3 incidents of her jealousy and controlling ways surfacing.
I came to the US in 1999 and have adapted to the lifestyle and cultural norms here, eg: having lady friends and guy friends and having lunch with them as friends is perfectly fine / normal unless I am really showing signs of cheating or infidelity.
So it was strike 3, first we did have a fight because she was jealous of me and my bicycling partner who happens to be a girl. She is Indian by ethnicity but born and raised here in the US and I met her and have been close friends ever since, back in June 2010. So Lucy was having the PMS time of the month and was accusing me of hanging out too much with my biking buddy because I aways gave a ride for my bicycling buddy after our bicycling events (10 miles get fit biking) in meetup.com. Lucy has met her before at these biking events that I organize.
Lucy was saying why I don't charge my biking buddy $ for the trips that I make and I understood where she was coming from, but appalled at the same time. From my understanding here in N. America, if you volunteer / give someone a short ride, not like a super long trip or car pool, you're not obligated to compensate / ask for gas $. Another thing we argued about was splitting of dinner / meals eaten out check... she claims that the guy should pay all and I kind of disagreed because it is really equal opportunity my core values / beliefs is that I'm ok to pay most of the time but every other check / bill should prob be split once in a while.
So then comes incident #2, no fight but I went out to diner to meet Wayne, an engineer whom I met from the Seattle LinkedIn professional networking event and he was interested in finding out more about my master's thesis which I did on Biomass Gasification and by this time already I was sharing the full details of my Google calendar with Lucy so she and I can see what each other is doing to be able to plan our time together. So that night we did have a bowling meetup event but I marked it as a maybe and definitely this dinner meet with Wayne would be more important in my books.
So the dinner was about 2.5 hrs or longer than expected since we had such a good time talking about renewable energy and she started calling my phone. I ignored the call because I felt that it was kind of rude to pick up the call since I was talking with Wayne, but i promptly called her back once I was done.
Here comes the fun part and you can laugh because I laughed also... so she calls Wayne... since I had the dinner place detail and phone (for my records) ... so it's kind of like the scenario where you don't know if you wan to laugh or cry or get angry... I mean think of it this way, what if it were a million dollar business deal and your spouse or significant other called up the potential client to check up on you? Oh my God... so unprofessional and uncalled for. So when I got a chance to call her I apologized for ignoring her call but I asked her what's up.
So she says hey did you actually go to dinner with Wayne? and I said yes why..? And she said she called him up and a girl picked up the phone. So I asked her what number did you dial to reach Wayne... and she told me the number and she screwed up the last digit and so it happen to go to a girl's phone LOL!!! So I guess it added fuel to her jealousy, insecurity, suspicions et al. Anyways so then this one we didn't argue abt it.
So anyways I had lunch with my biking buddy and again Lucy goes on a jealousy tirade about it (almost making a scene at the Indian restaurant where Lucy & I were having dinner together) and so I told her give me 24 hrs let me think about the whole situation, in my heart already I was about 70%+ pretty sure this is not going to work out, but I did consult with my parents since they are a little bit more old fashioned / traditional and know how Chinese people normally think of the situation. Reason being that this won't work is that I'm new in Seattle and will continue to meet girls and guys and my biking buddy will not be the last of her jealousy issues.
Talk to my parents and they were actually on her side, I was a little shocked but I respected their opinions because their reasoning was that Lucy being traditional, and age 31, in the Chinese culture it's "almost too late to get married to have kids" and hence she's being like a protective mother hen and will not let me go and will not let any other female near me. She actually told me that ever since she started dating me, she has not gone out to lunch with her guy friends, and hence expects me to do the same vice versa, and even if I wanted to go out to lunch with a lady friend, I have to ask her permission.... wow W T F .. :D
In the end I told her ok it's not gonna work out between you and me and we really should split. So after that she started going psycho on my and will intermittently send a nice / regular txt message, then shortly some crazy accusation type txt that I was cheating on her bla bla, pretty much harassing me. I was this close to filing a do not contact / restraining order and finally she came to her senses and left me alone. Phew. Talk about drama, and you'd think that this happens in soap operas only.
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_04_Lake_Washington_Bicycling/
Next one was Sept 25th, and blah this time I crashed, with my new bike, what a bummer, had to bring it into REI to true out the back wheel but other than that it's golden. Ohh and we saw a Lamborghini in Bellevue... typical I guess since the East Side is higher class and more effluent:
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_25_lake_Washington_bicycling_part_deux/
Just a heads up I'm grouping them by topics, not so much chronological order. On my to do list: hiking, and so I did it on sept 19th:
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_19_Bridal_Veil_Hike/
But have not done camping. It's now already Winter and I have yet to get a snow shoe / skiing / snowboarding session in. Sigh. No chain tires, don't know how to put them on... darn it. I'll prob car pool with others who are more experienced. I have driven in snow in Missouri which did not require snow chains / traction tires...
Sept 10th was the Salsa lesson, learnt the truth that I definitely do have 2 left feet, else maybe I wasn't trying hard enough. I'll still give dancing a try though it's not my forte.
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_09_10_Salsa_Lesson/
By this time already I was dating Lucy... a whole different saga / twilight zone experience / stuff that you'd think would only happen on soap operas... not the good things but the bad things especially after the breakup.
So Lucy is originally from China, she came with her parents in 1994 so completed her high school and college in Seattle Wa and you'd think someone who has been in the US this long would have acclimated / adapted to life here. We met from a few meetup.com events and story goes that she's looking for 6 feet tall, good in bed, earns a ton of money and the list goes on.
So she "interviewed" me and decided to give me a try. I, at that time was unfortunately getting jaded and tired of the whole dating scene in Seattle and I really should have followed my gut to not give up, persevere and not lower my expectation / compromise, and thought ok I'll give her a try and see how things would go. I already knew there will be quite a lost in translation because I know I am not as traditional as Lucy was, in short she's definitely more Chinese than I'll ever be. She's always talking about Astrology. It's not my forte, it's not something I believe in and not something which I am against, just neutral about it. Come to think about it, it's kinda funny, she's a Christian and as far as I recall, I think they do not condone astrology.
So anyways we dated and we had 3 incidents of her jealousy and controlling ways surfacing.
I came to the US in 1999 and have adapted to the lifestyle and cultural norms here, eg: having lady friends and guy friends and having lunch with them as friends is perfectly fine / normal unless I am really showing signs of cheating or infidelity.
So it was strike 3, first we did have a fight because she was jealous of me and my bicycling partner who happens to be a girl. She is Indian by ethnicity but born and raised here in the US and I met her and have been close friends ever since, back in June 2010. So Lucy was having the PMS time of the month and was accusing me of hanging out too much with my biking buddy because I aways gave a ride for my bicycling buddy after our bicycling events (10 miles get fit biking) in meetup.com. Lucy has met her before at these biking events that I organize.
Lucy was saying why I don't charge my biking buddy $ for the trips that I make and I understood where she was coming from, but appalled at the same time. From my understanding here in N. America, if you volunteer / give someone a short ride, not like a super long trip or car pool, you're not obligated to compensate / ask for gas $. Another thing we argued about was splitting of dinner / meals eaten out check... she claims that the guy should pay all and I kind of disagreed because it is really equal opportunity my core values / beliefs is that I'm ok to pay most of the time but every other check / bill should prob be split once in a while.
So then comes incident #2, no fight but I went out to diner to meet Wayne, an engineer whom I met from the Seattle LinkedIn professional networking event and he was interested in finding out more about my master's thesis which I did on Biomass Gasification and by this time already I was sharing the full details of my Google calendar with Lucy so she and I can see what each other is doing to be able to plan our time together. So that night we did have a bowling meetup event but I marked it as a maybe and definitely this dinner meet with Wayne would be more important in my books.
So the dinner was about 2.5 hrs or longer than expected since we had such a good time talking about renewable energy and she started calling my phone. I ignored the call because I felt that it was kind of rude to pick up the call since I was talking with Wayne, but i promptly called her back once I was done.
Here comes the fun part and you can laugh because I laughed also... so she calls Wayne... since I had the dinner place detail and phone (for my records) ... so it's kind of like the scenario where you don't know if you wan to laugh or cry or get angry... I mean think of it this way, what if it were a million dollar business deal and your spouse or significant other called up the potential client to check up on you? Oh my God... so unprofessional and uncalled for. So when I got a chance to call her I apologized for ignoring her call but I asked her what's up.
So she says hey did you actually go to dinner with Wayne? and I said yes why..? And she said she called him up and a girl picked up the phone. So I asked her what number did you dial to reach Wayne... and she told me the number and she screwed up the last digit and so it happen to go to a girl's phone LOL!!! So I guess it added fuel to her jealousy, insecurity, suspicions et al. Anyways so then this one we didn't argue abt it.
So anyways I had lunch with my biking buddy and again Lucy goes on a jealousy tirade about it (almost making a scene at the Indian restaurant where Lucy & I were having dinner together) and so I told her give me 24 hrs let me think about the whole situation, in my heart already I was about 70%+ pretty sure this is not going to work out, but I did consult with my parents since they are a little bit more old fashioned / traditional and know how Chinese people normally think of the situation. Reason being that this won't work is that I'm new in Seattle and will continue to meet girls and guys and my biking buddy will not be the last of her jealousy issues.
Talk to my parents and they were actually on her side, I was a little shocked but I respected their opinions because their reasoning was that Lucy being traditional, and age 31, in the Chinese culture it's "almost too late to get married to have kids" and hence she's being like a protective mother hen and will not let me go and will not let any other female near me. She actually told me that ever since she started dating me, she has not gone out to lunch with her guy friends, and hence expects me to do the same vice versa, and even if I wanted to go out to lunch with a lady friend, I have to ask her permission.... wow W T F .. :D
In the end I told her ok it's not gonna work out between you and me and we really should split. So after that she started going psycho on my and will intermittently send a nice / regular txt message, then shortly some crazy accusation type txt that I was cheating on her bla bla, pretty much harassing me. I was this close to filing a do not contact / restraining order and finally she came to her senses and left me alone. Phew. Talk about drama, and you'd think that this happens in soap operas only.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Thought that it's been a while...
When I started writing this I thought I hadn't written in a while,... probably life is passing me by at a lightning pace, but turns out that I was writing something and had it saved and not publish yet. I'll just mush them together.
So lessons learnt: dating is not easy... guy still needs to chase girls, girls are still shy / prefer to be chased (especially here in Seattle), better to just give my business card after the date, and seems to me women's universal language that I'm not interested = they don't call back. Sigh and they always say communication is important... then again I think it is my characteristics that I'd rather be told upfront "No I'm not interested" and well "disappointment" is part of the package when you say no and I'm fine about it.
No offense to the ladies but please, us guy are really clueless sometimes and we not always capable of reading the hints and signs.
I think I know better now and not to read too deep into things / meanings when they are said / done. Need to put my pragmatism thinking cap back on and go slow and easy. Let nature take it's course and seems like it'll be rare that chemistry actually strikes like a lightning rod unlike my prior relationship.
Well my prior relationship was that and luck. I just got lucky that she was as simple as I was but just so unlucky that I was blindsided and had discounted her selfishness and anger issues. Anyway not griping about the past time to move on, new pastures, greener grass and a better quality, life partner may be coming my way, fingers crossed!
Biking... woo hoo so I got me a new bicycle (and an inflatable kayak):
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_08_08_bicycle/
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_07_22_Lake_Union_Kayaking/
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_07_29_Lake_Union_Kayak_Trip/
So lessons learnt: dating is not easy... guy still needs to chase girls, girls are still shy / prefer to be chased (especially here in Seattle), better to just give my business card after the date, and seems to me women's universal language that I'm not interested = they don't call back. Sigh and they always say communication is important... then again I think it is my characteristics that I'd rather be told upfront "No I'm not interested" and well "disappointment" is part of the package when you say no and I'm fine about it.
No offense to the ladies but please, us guy are really clueless sometimes and we not always capable of reading the hints and signs.
So hint hint any ladies who are reading my blog, that's Roy 101... (for that matter guy 101), you need to tell me (the guy) what it is that you're feeling. Do you actually like me, are you flirting with me (that one I can pick up most of the time), you're interested in me but not 100% sure yet or we're just friends / just looking to be friends.
Well my prior relationship was that and luck. I just got lucky that she was as simple as I was but just so unlucky that I was blindsided and had discounted her selfishness and anger issues. Anyway not griping about the past time to move on, new pastures, greener grass and a better quality, life partner may be coming my way, fingers crossed!
Biking... woo hoo so I got me a new bicycle (and an inflatable kayak):
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_08_08_bicycle/
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_07_22_Lake_Union_Kayaking/
http://s783.photobucket.com/albums/yy114/zieglarnatta2/2010_07_29_Lake_Union_Kayak_Trip/
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
More bike runs and 1st IJL date tonight... wish me luck!
Bike rides for July 3rd and 4th:
Get Up & Get Out Seattle group (GUGO) was really fun, though the group got split in two a few times due to differing levels of cycling speeds. It was a leisure ride speed ++ and I definitely could keep with them even though I had my heavy ass Pacific Rubicon mountain bike 21 speed but I powered through with my bike and should have kept to the front of the pack rather than wait for the slower paddlers behind to catch up, and worse still being new to Seattle and not knowing the routes / location, I was in no proper position to help mediate between the front and back group.
Next time I'm bringing my GPS... need to look for a good way to mount it though.
2010_07_03_Pike_Place_Gas_Works_Ride
A very sad day indeed... going to the meetup.com for Seattle singles, not finding the group because it was really crowded and it was really loud & noisy. Sad because not only was it $25 for 10 drink coupons, you get a cool 4oz drink cup, got drunk by my own and definitely not the proper environment to meet other singles. I'm beginning to suspect that this meetup group will not yield the desired results that I was hoping for because it seems more like everyone is single but I don't really see any actual connection with the ladies. Perhaps I'm to passive, not an extrovert enough just need to courage up and just dive head in.
I guess that's my hangup on the Seattle dating scene, not a proper venue et al. (IJL please pull through for me I think you're my last hope)
2010_07_03_Seattle_International_Beerfest
July 4th bike ride was ok... not really my crowd of people, I think it was mostly alternative type bicycling culture type group unlike the GUGO above where we had fun talking and riding, mostly "regular" folks.
2010_07_04_4th_of_July_Bike_ride
So today I have my very 1st date arranged by IJL... I'm psyched and excited... I hope it is a sure shot and that there is mutual chemistry with Leah then it'll be so awesome and I can already start exploring things together as a couple.
So 7 pm is the dinner date. Ready or not here it comes!
We'll see... wish me luck!
Get Up & Get Out Seattle group (GUGO) was really fun, though the group got split in two a few times due to differing levels of cycling speeds. It was a leisure ride speed ++ and I definitely could keep with them even though I had my heavy ass Pacific Rubicon mountain bike 21 speed but I powered through with my bike and should have kept to the front of the pack rather than wait for the slower paddlers behind to catch up, and worse still being new to Seattle and not knowing the routes / location, I was in no proper position to help mediate between the front and back group.
Next time I'm bringing my GPS... need to look for a good way to mount it though.
2010_07_03_Pike_Place_Gas_Works_Ride
A very sad day indeed... going to the meetup.com for Seattle singles, not finding the group because it was really crowded and it was really loud & noisy. Sad because not only was it $25 for 10 drink coupons, you get a cool 4oz drink cup, got drunk by my own and definitely not the proper environment to meet other singles. I'm beginning to suspect that this meetup group will not yield the desired results that I was hoping for because it seems more like everyone is single but I don't really see any actual connection with the ladies. Perhaps I'm to passive, not an extrovert enough just need to courage up and just dive head in.
I guess that's my hangup on the Seattle dating scene, not a proper venue et al. (IJL please pull through for me I think you're my last hope)
2010_07_03_Seattle_International_Beerfest
July 4th bike ride was ok... not really my crowd of people, I think it was mostly alternative type bicycling culture type group unlike the GUGO above where we had fun talking and riding, mostly "regular" folks.
2010_07_04_4th_of_July_Bike_ride
So today I have my very 1st date arranged by IJL... I'm psyched and excited... I hope it is a sure shot and that there is mutual chemistry with Leah then it'll be so awesome and I can already start exploring things together as a couple.
So 7 pm is the dinner date. Ready or not here it comes!
We'll see... wish me luck!
Thursday, July 1, 2010
12 mile bike run and It's Just Lunch
Ok I think I'm almost ready to bicycle to work... I was able to manage 12 miles yesterday evening which was very surprising because I only planned to bike for about 40 minutes.. 20 minutes south on the Burke-Gilman trail and back. I was glad when I got to my last marker of my prior trip NE 50th Ave and Railroad Ave NE and continued to push forward and actually did 6 miles to 25th Ave NE and NE Blakeley St and then back to home.
Google Maps of my Bike Trail
Wow I am ready to ride to work... just need a new road bike. My stupid Pacific Rubicon mountain bike is having issues with the pivot pin / screw... keeps getting loose and I have to keep screwing it tight.
So my victory run pictures:
Burke Gilman southbound
Earlier rides:
Alki Beach
Burke Gilman South 1st try
Burke Gilman Northbound
So It's Just Lunch dating service... results...! Yesss! Well I mean 2 dinner dates have been arranged so I'm psyched and excited. I guess it's been 7 years, and it's like learning to ride a bicycle... well this will be a whole new bicycle because this time I'm aiming for "big game" ... as per Lenny Kravitz "American Woman.... (don't) stay away from meeee..."
I'll leave it as is for now.
Google Maps of my Bike Trail
Wow I am ready to ride to work... just need a new road bike. My stupid Pacific Rubicon mountain bike is having issues with the pivot pin / screw... keeps getting loose and I have to keep screwing it tight.
So my victory run pictures:
Burke Gilman southbound
Earlier rides:
Alki Beach
Burke Gilman South 1st try
Burke Gilman Northbound
So It's Just Lunch dating service... results...! Yesss! Well I mean 2 dinner dates have been arranged so I'm psyched and excited. I guess it's been 7 years, and it's like learning to ride a bicycle... well this will be a whole new bicycle because this time I'm aiming for "big game" ... as per Lenny Kravitz "American Woman.... (don't) stay away from meeee..."
I'll leave it as is for now.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Dating is tough...
So I am on match.com and well it's tough. I would probably say I'm, 60-40: 60% looks 40% personality... or was it the other way around?
It is a bit of a disadvantage that I don't have too may friends here in Seattle and well, I'm trying to find & make more friends and hopefully it'll lead to something.
Those on the younger end of 20's... not as matured as I thought. I do understand being outgoing and being matured are two separate things, then again maybe I am the one who needs to change and be more social and do more "fun stuff".
What I noticed is that the PNW girls love to travel, international travel especially... I'm not opposed to that however travel costs money and I'm a frugal and pragmatic and I know that I am saving every penny and dollar for retirement. It's not that I can't afford it, I can but I know better... maybe time for me to get a job that pays 100k or more... time to look into ladders.com for that 100k talent.
Yep you may enjoy today but work more years and suffer later on especially if you do not have sufficient umbrella funds.
Another pet peev of mine... in match.com you can wink to let someone know that you're interested... maybe call me impatient but I send them a response message and then nothing... I don't know is it something I said in the message or just that you want to tease me? Please don't waste my time if so.
I also think it's rude that after a date and you don't entertain my calls / message, I do understand that maybe there's no fit between you and me and if that's the case just be upfront about it and tell it to me. No point being unprofessional and cowering and hiding like a coward.
Anyways enough of that... I guess I just have to steak out and hunt until I get the right one... hopefully it'll be soon because I'm sick of being single... not to blow my own trumpet or to stroke my own ego but knowing that I have a lot to offer whomever the lucky lady may be.
It is a bit of a disadvantage that I don't have too may friends here in Seattle and well, I'm trying to find & make more friends and hopefully it'll lead to something.
Those on the younger end of 20's... not as matured as I thought. I do understand being outgoing and being matured are two separate things, then again maybe I am the one who needs to change and be more social and do more "fun stuff".
What I noticed is that the PNW girls love to travel, international travel especially... I'm not opposed to that however travel costs money and I'm a frugal and pragmatic and I know that I am saving every penny and dollar for retirement. It's not that I can't afford it, I can but I know better... maybe time for me to get a job that pays 100k or more... time to look into ladders.com for that 100k talent.
Yep you may enjoy today but work more years and suffer later on especially if you do not have sufficient umbrella funds.
Another pet peev of mine... in match.com you can wink to let someone know that you're interested... maybe call me impatient but I send them a response message and then nothing... I don't know is it something I said in the message or just that you want to tease me? Please don't waste my time if so.
I also think it's rude that after a date and you don't entertain my calls / message, I do understand that maybe there's no fit between you and me and if that's the case just be upfront about it and tell it to me. No point being unprofessional and cowering and hiding like a coward.
Anyways enough of that... I guess I just have to steak out and hunt until I get the right one... hopefully it'll be soon because I'm sick of being single... not to blow my own trumpet or to stroke my own ego but knowing that I have a lot to offer whomever the lucky lady may be.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Talk about a wake up call...
Wow time flies... October 2009 till now and here I am in Seattle... was engaged on Dec 26 2009 and then April 30th unengaged, single... just because of a myspace page which I had ages ago and on the basis of that my relationship went to the dumpsters (7 years mind you).
Of course the earlier 2 "get out of jail free" cards which were given to her, are no good to redeem for this incidence since I did let her stray 2x with her ex. Stupid of me to allow it in exchange for the 2 get out of jail free cards in the first place... that should have been the end point... if you can keep your panties on and are so easily influenced by your ex and wanting to have sex with him.
This is such bullshit. No wonder this get out of jail free system never works, there is no such thing as a tit for tat.
Anyway with that I'm still staying in Seattle Wa since it has so much to offer me in terms of career and hopefully better mate selection... someone who deserves my love, personality and everything that I have to offer as a nice guy. Then again the saying goes "nice guys always finish last" sigh.
So I'm on match.com and we'll see what happens. Hopefully I'll find someone who really loves me as who I am and embraces the good in me along with what I have to offer.
I had a good morning jog today, and since work was over early today I went to Green Lake Park but boy was it busy with people since the day was so beautiful. Can't blame them. I didn't get a chance to say hi / flirt with the girls but there's always a next time.
Along with the walk now my left leg is going to have a corn / blister... sigh. I'll go buy the extra soft padding tomorrow since it worked so well on my office leather shoes. Hope I'll be able to go camping this summer... would be so much fun, and even better still if I get to go with Hilda. She's someone I met on match.com and I sincerely hope the relationship blossoms.
Besides that well, living the boring glorious life of a bachelor. Hopefully meetup.com will help me find new local friends to hang out with and build me a stronger network.
Of course the earlier 2 "get out of jail free" cards which were given to her, are no good to redeem for this incidence since I did let her stray 2x with her ex. Stupid of me to allow it in exchange for the 2 get out of jail free cards in the first place... that should have been the end point... if you can keep your panties on and are so easily influenced by your ex and wanting to have sex with him.
This is such bullshit. No wonder this get out of jail free system never works, there is no such thing as a tit for tat.
Anyway with that I'm still staying in Seattle Wa since it has so much to offer me in terms of career and hopefully better mate selection... someone who deserves my love, personality and everything that I have to offer as a nice guy. Then again the saying goes "nice guys always finish last" sigh.
So I'm on match.com and we'll see what happens. Hopefully I'll find someone who really loves me as who I am and embraces the good in me along with what I have to offer.
I had a good morning jog today, and since work was over early today I went to Green Lake Park but boy was it busy with people since the day was so beautiful. Can't blame them. I didn't get a chance to say hi / flirt with the girls but there's always a next time.
Along with the walk now my left leg is going to have a corn / blister... sigh. I'll go buy the extra soft padding tomorrow since it worked so well on my office leather shoes. Hope I'll be able to go camping this summer... would be so much fun, and even better still if I get to go with Hilda. She's someone I met on match.com and I sincerely hope the relationship blossoms.
Besides that well, living the boring glorious life of a bachelor. Hopefully meetup.com will help me find new local friends to hang out with and build me a stronger network.
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