Thursday, August 19, 2010

Thought that it's been a while...

When I started writing this I thought I hadn't written in a while,... probably life is passing me by at a lightning pace, but turns out that I was writing something and had it saved and not publish yet. I'll just mush them together.

So lessons learnt: dating is not easy... guy still needs to chase girls, girls are still shy / prefer to be chased (especially  here in Seattle), better to just give my business card after the date, and seems to me women's universal language that I'm not interested = they don't call back. Sigh and they always say communication is important... then again I think it is my characteristics that I'd rather be told upfront "No I'm not interested" and well "disappointment" is part of the package when you say no and I'm fine about it.

No offense to the ladies but please, us guy are really clueless sometimes and we not always capable of reading the hints and signs.

So hint hint any ladies who are reading my blog, that's Roy 101... (for that matter guy 101), you need to tell me (the guy) what it is that you're feeling. Do you actually like me, are you flirting with me (that one I can pick up most of the time), you're interested in me but not 100% sure yet or we're just friends / just looking to be friends.

I think I know better now and not to read too deep into things / meanings when they are said / done. Need to put my pragmatism thinking cap back on and go slow and easy. Let nature take it's course and seems like it'll be rare that chemistry actually strikes like a lightning rod unlike my prior relationship.

Well my prior relationship was that and luck. I just got lucky that she was as simple as I was but just so unlucky that I was blindsided and had discounted her selfishness and anger issues. Anyway not griping about the past time to move on, new pastures, greener grass and a better quality, life partner may be coming my way, fingers crossed!

Biking... woo hoo so I got me a new bicycle (and an inflatable kayak):

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

More bike runs and 1st IJL date tonight... wish me luck!

Bike rides for July 3rd and 4th:

Get Up & Get Out Seattle group (GUGO) was really fun, though the group got split in two a few times due to differing levels of cycling speeds. It was a leisure ride speed ++ and I definitely could keep with them even though I had my heavy ass Pacific Rubicon mountain bike 21 speed but I powered through with my bike and should have kept to the front of the pack rather than wait for the slower paddlers behind to catch up, and worse still being new to Seattle and not knowing the routes / location, I was in no proper position to help mediate between the front and back group.

Next time I'm bringing my GPS... need to look for a good way to mount it though.


A very sad day indeed... going to the for Seattle singles, not finding the group because it was really crowded and it was really loud & noisy. Sad because not only was it $25 for 10 drink coupons, you get a cool 4oz drink cup, got drunk by my own and definitely not the proper environment to meet other singles. I'm beginning to suspect that this meetup group will not yield the desired results that I was hoping for because it seems more like everyone is single but I don't really see any actual connection with the ladies. Perhaps I'm to passive, not an extrovert enough just need to courage up and just dive head in.

I guess that's my hangup on the Seattle dating scene, not a proper venue et al. (IJL please pull through for me I think you're my last hope)


July 4th bike ride was ok... not really my crowd of people, I think it was mostly alternative type bicycling culture type group unlike the GUGO above where we had fun talking and riding, mostly "regular" folks.


So today I have my very 1st date arranged by IJL... I'm psyched and excited... I hope it is a sure shot and that there is mutual chemistry with Leah then it'll be so awesome and I can already start exploring things together as a couple.

So 7 pm is the dinner date. Ready or not here it comes!

We'll see... wish me luck!

Thursday, July 1, 2010

12 mile bike run and It's Just Lunch

Ok I think I'm almost ready to bicycle to work... I was able to manage 12 miles yesterday evening which was very surprising because I only planned to bike for about 40 minutes.. 20 minutes south on the Burke-Gilman trail and back. I was glad when I got to my last marker of my prior trip NE 50th Ave and Railroad Ave NE and continued to push forward and actually did 6 miles to 25th Ave NE and NE Blakeley St and then back to home.

Google Maps of my Bike Trail

Wow I am ready to ride to work... just need a new road bike. My stupid Pacific Rubicon mountain bike is having issues with the pivot pin / screw... keeps getting loose and I have to keep screwing it tight.

So my victory run pictures:

Burke Gilman southbound

Earlier rides:

Alki Beach

Burke Gilman South 1st try

Burke Gilman Northbound

So It's Just Lunch dating service... results...! Yesss! Well I mean 2 dinner dates have been arranged so I'm psyched and excited. I guess it's been 7 years, and it's like learning to ride a bicycle... well this will be a whole new bicycle because this time I'm aiming for "big game" ... as per Lenny Kravitz "American Woman.... (don't) stay away from meeee..."

I'll leave it as is for now.

Monday, June 21, 2010

Dating is tough...

So I am on and well it's tough. I would probably say I'm, 60-40: 60% looks 40% personality... or was it the other way around?

It is a bit of a disadvantage that I don't have too may friends here in Seattle and well, I'm trying to find & make more friends and hopefully it'll lead to something.

Those on the younger end of 20's... not as matured as I thought. I do understand being outgoing and being matured are two separate things, then again maybe I am the one who needs to change and be more social and do more "fun stuff".

What I noticed is that the PNW girls love to travel, international travel especially... I'm not opposed to that however travel costs money and I'm a frugal and pragmatic and I know that I am saving every penny and dollar for retirement. It's not that I can't afford it, I can but I know better... maybe time for me to get a job that pays 100k or more... time to look into for that 100k talent.

Yep you may enjoy today but work more years and suffer later on especially if you do not have sufficient umbrella funds.

Another pet peev of mine... in you can wink to let someone know that you're interested... maybe call me impatient but I send them a response message and then nothing... I don't know is it something I said in the message or just that you want to tease me? Please don't waste my time if so.

I also think it's rude that after a date and you don't entertain my calls / message, I do understand that maybe there's no fit between you and me and if that's the case just be upfront about it and tell it to me. No point being unprofessional and cowering and hiding like a coward.

Anyways enough of that... I guess I just have to steak out and hunt until I get the right one... hopefully it'll be soon because I'm sick of being single... not to blow my own trumpet or to stroke my own ego but knowing that I have a lot to offer whomever the lucky lady may be.

Monday, June 14, 2010

Talk about a wake up call...

Wow time flies... October 2009 till now and here I am in Seattle... was engaged on Dec 26 2009 and then April 30th unengaged, single... just because of a myspace page which I had ages ago and on the basis of that my relationship went to the dumpsters (7 years mind you).

Of course the earlier 2 "get out of jail free" cards which were given to her, are no good to redeem for this incidence since I did let her stray 2x with her ex. Stupid of me to allow it in exchange for the 2 get out of jail free cards in the first place... that should have been the end point... if you can keep your panties on and are so easily influenced by your ex and wanting to have sex with him.

This is such bullshit. No wonder this get out of jail free system never works, there is no such thing as a tit for tat.

Anyway with that I'm still staying in Seattle Wa since it has so much to offer me in terms of career and hopefully better mate selection... someone who deserves my love, personality and everything that I have to offer as a nice guy. Then again the saying goes "nice guys always finish last" sigh.

So I'm on and we'll see what happens. Hopefully I'll find someone who really loves me as who I am and embraces the good in me along with what I have to offer.

I had a good morning jog today, and since work was over early today I went to Green Lake Park but boy was it busy with people since the day was so beautiful. Can't blame them. I didn't get a chance to say hi / flirt with the girls but there's always a next time.

Along with the walk now my left leg is going to have a corn / blister... sigh. I'll go buy the extra soft padding tomorrow since it worked so well on my office leather shoes. Hope I'll be able to go camping this summer... would be so much fun, and even better still if I get to go with Hilda. She's someone I met on and I sincerely hope the relationship blossoms.

Besides that well, living the boring glorious life of a bachelor. Hopefully will help me find new local friends to hang out with and build me a stronger network.